If there’s anything I’ve learned it’s this; The greatest part of life is found along the journey. The sweat, the blood and the tears are where we find our truest strength. The mountain top experiences are short lived. Yes, reaching the top of the summit is truly rewarding (as it should be) but you can’t expect to stay there for long. Soon you will find more mountains to climb, and thus, the journey begins all over again. But you pack up your experiences, and failures, and head out on the next phase of the journey. You grow. You get stronger. You learn to pace yourself.
Be careful though to think you must journey alone. Nothing great is ever achieved alone.
Parenting is the one relationship in life that (seemingly) downgrades with time invested in it. You put your heart and soul into this little person, watering their growth for +/-18 years, then poof! Out they go. Now, I don’t tend to think this relationship downgrades as much as it changes. Once your children are grown, you no longer are soul beneficiary to who they are. It’s important to accept that there will be other friends, a spouse, mentors who will come along side your child and know them, perhaps better than you do now (because people do change with time). Yes, a relationship with your children still exists. But it shifts, or it should.
They will live with these people, spend more time with them, and hopefully find lasting people to grow old with. If you think about it, raising a child really only lasts a fraction of your child’s life. It’s a vital time, but a short one. Other people will fill them, this is the nature of things.
It’s so important to do what you can while they are with you. But it’s equally important to understand the value of their independence, once they’re adults. So much of what we do as parents is a preparation for this stage.
My job, from day one, is to equip her for this; to go, and do, and be.
As the days go on, we learn so much about our little bit. She is developing into a more independent girl (how could she not with us as parents?). I see her trying new things with no concept of failure. Her goals to move, crawl and ultimately walk (and oh buddy does she try!) are at the forefront of her mind. Even with continual falls and face plants she tries again, and again, and again. I love this about her little personality. I hope this persistence continues as she grows.
Just some personal parenting thoughts for the day.
Sorry for the lack of photography here lately, but hopefully I can prioritize some photo time soon!
“You do not need another heart to make yours beat, despite popular misconception.”
- Iain S. Thomas